The number one concern for most child care providers and parents is a child with extreme behavior problems. While all children will need correction at some point and time, others will need constant attention because of behavior issues. For the safety of other children in the center, aggressive behaviors must be corrected. Combating behavior problems can prove difficult for providers. They simply do not have the authority to correct behavior problems on their own. Children who act out in the child care setting are likely to exhibit the same behaviors at home. Parents are often aware of behavior issues such as aggression because they, too, have experienced it with the child. Communication will be key when addressing problems that are occurring in the center and at home. As with many issues regarding children, providers and parents must work together to correct behaviors.
The first step in correcting behavior problems is recognizing that there is, indeed, a problem. Parents and providers must come together and realize that the behavior is not being addressed properly and may need further attention. Once a behavior is noticed, it then becomes the “target behavior.” Target behaviors can be any behavior that is deemed unacceptable by the provider or the parent. Examples of behaviors that are most often targeted by child care providers are biting, hitting, lying, pushing, etc. Note that these are behaviors that can be harmful to other children.
Once the target behavior is determined, parents and providers must work together to create a plan. The plan should include a consequence to the actions of the target behavior. What will happen if the child exhibits the behavior? The consequence to the action must be the same at home and at the center. “Time out” is the correcting measure most often used. Because providers are not allowed to physically touch the child, spanking the child is not recommended. The child needs to know that the outcome of the behavior will be the same regardless of where he or she is at home or child care.
After the plan is created, it must be put into action. This is where the behavior will be corrected. It is important that child care providers and parents look for and notice the target behavior. The child must not be able to get away with the behavior at any cost. Following through with the consequences will be especially important for both providers and parents. The child needs to know and understand that a certain behaviors will have consequences. It is also important to ensure that the consequence fits the crime. Harsh consequences can be damaging to children and may even encourage further behavior issues. Many child care centers have regulations regarding time-out. A young child cannot sit in time out any longer than the number his age.
Two year olds are allowed to sit 2 minutes for a behavior. Just as consequences must always be carried through, it is important that young children not be punished twice for the same behavior. Parents should not punish the child for biting if he has already been punished by the provider. Chances are, young children do not recall events that happened earlier in the day. The child will be confused if this happened. Targeting and correcting behaviors that may be harmful towards others are tasks that are accomplished daily by child care providers. If you are having trouble changing an unwanted behavior, talk to your child’s caregiver and ask if correcting the behavior can be a team effort. Caregivers are willing to help to ensure the well-being of every child in the center. Working together to correct unwanted behaviors will be beneficial for parents and providers alike.